Category: Family

Scenes From Vacation

The Wife and I are currently on vacation. There will be a fuller accounting of our travels when we return, but this was kind of amusing.

The Wife and I are getting ready, and she comments her bruise hurts.

Me: Where did you get the bruise?

The Wife: Falling off the wagon.

Derek’s Mind: Wait, she doesn’t have addiction issues. Could she be talking about food? But how would she have gotten a bruise from food?

The Wife (seeing my confusion): When I fell off the feed wagon feeding the horses?

Me: Oh yeah. I’ve just never heard that phrase used literally before.

Derek’s Hurricane Ian Travelogue

Okay, this is me putting down what is essentially a long journal entry. The TLDR is that the Ward clan came through the storm relatively unscathed. We were much luckier than many of our friends and fellow residents. I also found some gaps in my planning. Some were lack of imagination, some were thinking I had something until I went looking for it. We were very fortunate that we didn’t discover a discrepancy because we desperately needed something and found out we didn’t have it.

Let me take you back to Friday, September 23rd. This was when I first saw that what was, at that point, an unnamed storm, was projected to become a hurricane and smack into the Gulf Coast of Florida in a week. Worse, Ward Manor was smack in the middle of the cone. Feck. Hurricanes are like tactical nukes. They only need to be close to do some massive damage. That morning, The Wife and I discussed some of the probabilities. First, we were set for most supplies – food, water, and other consumables. The big issue was power. We couldn’t afford a generator, but what we could afford was a power station. We also found a deal on a big fan that ran on the same batteries as some of our power tools. I placed the orders. Home Depot said the fan would be there on Saturday. Amazon said the power station would be there Tuesday. I go back to work because I have a half-day. We’re supposed to get our COVID boosters and flu shots before some upcoming travel. As I’m working, I realize I either misread the initial track or the NHC updated their data with the projected hurricane coming Wednesday. Which is uncomfortably close to when the new power station is supposed to be delivered. The Brother could get the same power station delivered on Saturday. We decided against it because it would require time and gas on Sunday that we didn’t really want to spend.

As more information comes in, the NHC and the news started saying that it was going to be at least a Cat 3 storm when it hits us. Cat 3 is usually my normal threshold for deciding whether or not to evac. This was when I hit my first hurdle – I had not updated my evacuation plans when we downsized to just the Ward Wagon. Okay, technically we could also take MIL’s car. Still, I had to mentally plan for how to fit five cats, three humans, and necessary supplies and equipment in the Ward Wagon. Then there was the question of where to go. From the track, I wasn’t sure if my normal evac points would be reachable. Further discussion was derailed by my "Twelve Hours of Suck" that always happens after I get my COVID shot.

Saturday was recovering from the THOS, which was helped as we watched the track go north. Heck, we wouldn’t need to evac. Heck, we might not even need to put up the storm screens. I continued to sip down Powerade Zero and get caught up on anime. Then, the track started to creep down. At the very least, we’re going to need to put up the storm screens. Next issue – we no longer had a ladder tall enough to reach a couple of the windows to put up the screens. Discussions on how to procure such a ladder showed that: A) those fuckers are expensive, and B) there was a bit of a run at the moment, and C) there wasn’t a huge supply to begin with.

Sunday was more planning and discussion on how to get up the storm shutters. Fortunately, there were some greedy and mercenary handymen advertising on social media. In addition, the neighborhood Facebook group started up a list where volunteers would come around and put up folks’ storm screens. These are two solutions that warmed my voluntarism heart. I started doing more prep for losing power and internet. I have a stash of "dumb" light bulbs for if we lost internet but not power. What if we lost both for extended periods? Well, I have a battery radio. Wait, where was it? Um, it must have been lost during the move. Fuck. MIL offered to go in search of one on Monday since she had to go out for other appointments. Yes, please. The only other excitement was when there was a low pass by a quartet of fighters. I first thought they were F-16’s, but later photographs showed them to be F-35’s.

Monday had the track returning to smacking us – but with even more gusto. We began the process of getting everything behind walls. This meant shifting furniture around to make floor space. It also meant I found out that the dining room chandelier is approximately two inches lower than the top of my head. I would lose count of how many times I hit that iron frame. Damn thing hurt. Then, after The Wife logged off of work, we put up the storm screens on the first floor. The nice thing about the screens is that they are light and the mounting went up relatively smoothly. I was still sore as hell from using a bunch of muscles that don’t normally get used.

Tuesday was anxiety continued. We knew the handyman we hired was coming, but there were a couple of houses ahead of us – and time was running short. I kept busy doing storm prep. There was a lot of shuffling in the garage to clear out enough floor space to bring the Ward Wagon behind the walls. For those outside of Florida, since the water table doesn’t allow basements, and since our attics are around oven temperatures even in winter, garages tend to be the storage space. It is common to have the garage stuffed. Fortunately, ours wasn’t too bad. It still required a lot of shuffling, moving stuff about, and even bringing somethings back in the house. By the time The Wife got finished with work, we had the space to move in the Ward Wagon. As we did that, the handyman and his trusty assistant showed up, and quickly threw up the screens. As we shut and locked the garage door, it felt kind of like we were bracing for a siege.

Wednesday had the track going further south of us, but Hurricane Ian was now projected to be a monster Cat 4. That storm was several hundred miles across. And it was supposed to follow Charley’s path across the state. We were going to get some really nasty weather. Even before daybreak we were getting rain and some wind. A fraction of what we would get later, but enough that I was glad for my rain parka as I did an early morning perimeter sweep. I just wanted to make sure we hadn’t missed anything critical. The cats weren’t dealing with a newly crowded house and the inability to get on the back porch. We ended up having to drug one of them who was really having a hard time. Then, the wind really starts up. The whipping of the screens on the windows was on the unnerving side. We made cookies and threw some extra meat in the crockpot in anticipation of losing power some time during the day. Well, The Wife and MIL did all of that. I just supervised. Watching the news, it was odd to see Tampa Bay being pushed out by the storm.

In addition to watching the news, we monitored the neighborhood FB page. Several of the neighbors were reporting leaks around their windows. So, we start periodic window checks. I can’t tell you how relieved I was when one area turned out just to be the cats marking territory and not a window leak. Most of the day consisted of working a bit before drifting out to watch the news for fifteen or twenty minutes as the weather continued to get worse and worse and worse. Power was dropping all over the county. It finally got bad enough that the county put everyone under water restrictions due to so many lift stations being without power. So, it was "Let yellow mellow, but flush down the brown." Joy. By close to 1700, our neighborhood was part of the maybe 15% of our county that still had power. As the heavy stuff came through, there was a bit of water blown in through the bottom of the front door. If this happens again, we’ll need sandbags. As we continued to watch the news, Tampa Police updated on a couple of folks who decided hurricane was a good reason to try and break into the Tampa IKEA. Then the winds and rains were bad enough that the county said it was pulling first responders off the streets until things quiet down a bit. We get news that The Wife’s niece’s car managed to get whacked by a falling tree. By 1930, our street is part of the less than 5% of customers still with power. The BIL and SIL are some of those who have lost power. Throughout the night, we have a couple of flickers, but power and internet stay up.

Thursday morning comes and both of our bosses tell us not to worry about logging in. Good, because I was really kind of worried about what we would find once we cracked open the front door. At the 0800 perimeter sweep, we find that the tree in the back is leaning over enough that we’ll probably lose it. Well, I never really liked having an oak back there. The wife and I discussed replacements. If we have to replace it, I’d really like a palm tree since pines are not allowed. We took our battery powered fan and a spare power bank over to BIL’s. On the trip over we saw a lot of tree and fence damage. Fortunatly, we don’t see a whole lot of catastrophic damage. We ended up bringing home meat to store in our freezers for them. We made a couple of more stops to check on friends before going home and decompressing the house. We took down the screens on the first floor and moved stuff back out to the back porch. On the plus side, a lot of the stuff that had just been lain around the garage was now put away, and the garage is more organized than it had been in some time. We’ll see how long it lasts.

Friday saw BIL’s and SIL’s power restored and things getting on their way back to normal. For us, it will be much easier than a lot of folks south of us. As I write this, a lot of Manatee is still flooded. Heck, they had to shut down part of the interstate due to flooding from the Myakka. Yet, we’re on the road to recovery.

Overall, we were lucky that we didn’t get hit harder. I hope this is the only major storm of the season. If not, at least I’ll put the lessons learned to good use.

Fun Show Time!

Over the weekend, the BIL and me went to the local gun show. It was mostly a chance for him and me to price out a couple of items (each) and just gawk.

For my two items, I was looking for a semi-auto 12-gauge and a .22 double-action revolver. I was really hoping someone had Mossberg’s new 940, but to no avail. I did see their 930 Tactical and a couple of Beretta’s 1301’s. As for the revolver? I’ve decided that even though they are cheaper, I can’t go with an LCR for my 22 revolver. I just can’t get a good grip on that gun. I’d really like an SP-101 in 22, but we’ll see what’s available when I finally have the cash.

The BIL was looking at some uppers for his AR pistol and some pump shotguns. The local gun store chain was running a special on a Maverick 88 for $300. Which honestly, wasn’t a bad deal for a budget shotgun. He was also looking for a .22 plinker, and was looking at a couple of GSG’s MP5 clones. Which, honestly, are also tempting for when/if the niece and nephew come to get their 22’s out of my gun safe. Or, I could just fix up the other ones in my safe like I’ve been saying I was going to.

As for other neat toys, I played with some CZs and a nifty B&T TP9. What was interesting was that I saw a couple of HK unicorns in the wild. One of the stands had the semi-auto version of the UMP sub gun. It was interesting, but what really caught my eye was someone selling an SLR-8. I’d never seen one in real life. I’ll admit to being intrigued. Unfortunately (or fortunately) I do not have the $2k they were asking.

I really wish one of the booths had a Just Right Carbine. Just so I can check the ergonomics of them. I’m tempted because they’re one of the few PCCs you can get that will take M&P mags.

I almost came home with a really pretty knife, but I have a hard time paying good money for something that’s just going to be displayed. If I buy a knife, I want to know that it will be used. Or at least, have the probability of being used. Or at least have the probability in my mind of being used.

All the fun at the gun show.

Good Bye Titus

While the rest of the world was shocked by the news of the passing of Queen Elizabeth, the Ward household was dealing with its own loss. We had to let go of our lovable Sphinx cat Titus. It would be a bit easier if it hadn’t come out of the blue. If it had been like some of our previous cats, where we knew they were in decline and we were just enjoying what time we had with them. No, it was bringing him in for a small issue and finding out there was a major problem. Then, having to make that very hard decision.

To call Titus amiable is understatement. The cat loved people and loved attention. He loved being on laps or snuggled next to someone. He loved to be held, which could be an issue considering he was a hefty boy. Yet, he loved the spotlight. Which is why he always got to meet Santa for pictures.

The first day I met Titus, I nicknamed him “Turkey Butt” because his butt end resembled a raw turkey. I don’t think The Wife ever forgave me when my friends used it. I reduced my usage over the years, but would occasionally call him that when he irked me.

Titus was one of the reasons we have always had a king-sized bed. He loved to snuggle with The Wife, attempt to snuggle with me, or just snuggle under his covers and be content with his humans. The bed seems emptier without him.

We will miss our dear, sweet Titus.

Weekend Oops

This weekend we had plans. Great plans. You know what they say about plans…

Saturday should have been relatively simple. We had to take the Ward Wagon back to the dealership to get a coating put on. It was something we purchased when we bought the Ward Wagon. The trick was that the dealership is an hour and a half north of us. The plan was to get there when they opened, which meant we were going to need to leave at oh-dark-early. At least for The Wife. She likes to sleep in on the weekends. Everything went fine. A little bit longer than we anticipated, but no major issues. I even got some writing done on the third Irregulars story (I’ll finish that. I promise.). Then we went to The Brother’s since we were not too far from him – not close, but not far compared to Ward Manor. He’s getting some roommates due to a rent increase and is in purge mode. We were getting some of his castoffs. As we were taking items back out, we realized that the service folks had taken out our trunk organizer – and failed to put it back in. Grumble, grumble, grumble. It was another half-hour back to the dealership. Then another 100 minutes to get home. Well, we did make one stop to a store we both hadn’t visited.

The Sunday before Labor Day is usually the day The Wife and I celebrate our first date by going back to the restaurant. From the annoyances on Saturday, and some other items, we decided we would just go to the restaurant on Monday. This is what we call in the writing world as foreshadowing. Most of Sunday was taken up with The Wife and MIL putting up decorations around the house.

Monday we decided would be a mostly TV day. Just as an aside, I decided to check the restaurant hours in case they were changed for Labor Day. Well, they hadn’t. Unfortunately, that was because the restaurant is closed on Mondays.

I guess we’ll try next weekend.

Lessons From A Birthday Party

The past weekend, we celebrated the great niece’s second birthday. In her usual fashion, The Wife went into full crafting mode to decorate the house in the party’s theme of Minnie and Mickey Mouse. Cricut go brrr. I think they went a little overboard. However, based on the guests’ comments, I was in the minority opinion.

So, what lessons did we learn?

First, if you are going to have large inflatable pools, have an air compressor that will actually handle inflating said large inflatable pool. Do not use the one you got off of an Amazon sale that is more designed for inflating small sports equipment and the tires to your hand cart.

Second, be more careful into which party supplies you buy from the warehouse. Particularly perishable items. My drink fridge has lots of drink boxes. We were expecting more toddlers that didn’t materialize. Fortunately, we are very good in using up spare hamburger buns, and hot dogs are a staple of our weekly menus.

Third, even if all you are doing is grilling, it’s probably a good idea to put on sunblock. I now have the red neck to go with my Southern accent. Fortunately, it’s less painful and more annoying.

Overall, it was a successful day. The guests were happy. The niece was happy. No family drama.

Derek’s Mildly Useful Reviews – Peaky Blinders and Reacher

The Wife, MIL, and I watch a show while we eat a meal. Mostly dinner, but sometimes over a weekend breakfast. Sometimes, we will end up binging a show we planned to watch more slowly. Two of the more recent shows were Peaky Blinders on Netflix and Reacher on Amazon Prime.

Peaky Blinders starts as a gangster show about a family of gypsy street gangsters and their rise in post-WWI Birmingham England. The first four seasons are solid gangster crime heist type shows. Smart writing, interesting characters, twisty plots. Soundtrack is solid, but not period. The fifth and sixth seasons were good, but the writers were infected with a common need to prove their correctness. All of the sudden, the gangsters are fighting fascists with the communists in late twenties Britain. It felt very much like they were taking modern issues and loosely draping history. And it felt a bit preachy. Which is not what I wanted. The rest of the story was at least interesting. Would I still recommend the show (including the last two seasons)? Hell yes.

Reacher, by contrast, was great popcorn fun television. Amusing characters and dialogue, but heavily driven with action and a kind of tropey plot and atrocious tactics/gun handling/fight physics. I think The Wife got tired of me yelling at the screen. She also learned what it meant to “rat-fuck a body”. You know it was good when what should have been a week’s or so worth of viewing ended up being watched over a weekend.

Downsizing – Vehicle Edition

Since The Wife and I are both teleworkers, we’ve been discussing going down to one vehicle. Mostly, that has been discussing of if we should sell/give my Xterra and just keep her CRV. Part of the issue is that I really didn’t want to give up the Xterra. Yet, we kept asking ourselves the question of why we were still holding on to it.

A couple of weekends ago, just out of curiosity, I looked up the values of both cars. That changed the conversation. Her Honda was worth almost as much as we paid for it. We discussed it more over dinner. Could we just sell both cars and get one we both really wanted?

We looked at a bunch of cars in our new “price range” and tentatively agreed on a Subaru Forester. The Wife started calling around. No one around us had new ones, and used ones were sparse on the ground. We did test drive one just to make sure that the Forester was at least comfortable to drive. The salesperson was clear that if we wanted one in the pipeline, it would be a month – maybe six weeks. Two to three months minimum if we wanted to order one. We looked at the used ones on the lot. The price difference was about two grand between the new ones in the pipeline and the used ones on the lot. And the used ones were 2019’s. Plus, the salesperson was kind of a dick.

We left talking about what should we do. Then we found a dealership with new ones in stock. There was just one small issue. It was about an hour and a half north of us. Still, they had the ones we wanted in stock. After work, we convoyed up.

We really liked the Forester we saw. Test drive confirmed we really liked it. The price was really at the top end of what we were willing to pay. The salesperson showed us a model that had just come in. I liked the green color, the fact that it had almost all of the same features, and was less expensive. We started running the numbers. Then it seemed to take a while. A lot longer than it should have. Finally, the salesperson comes over with a sheepish look on his face. It seems the green one was supposed to be in the loaner program and wasn’t even supposed to be on the floor. So, we were back to original car. Still doable.

After a long wait and some initial paperwork, we’re off to the Financing Lady. She explains that some of the long wait was due to The Wife missing a word on the address on her license (something we get to correct) and they can’t seem to spell my first name correctly. Then, she proceeds to inform us of a couple of items she discovered when going through our files. Since we were buying from the same chain that sold us The Wife’s Honda, the Financing Lady found out we were due money back from a maintenance contract and other items. Did we mind that she put all of that towards the down payment? Um, no. That was very helpful. We start signing. I comment on the picture of her cats on her file cabinet. This led to an ongoing conversation between The Wife and the Financing Lady about how to take care of kitties. As we were nearing completion, the Financing Lady asked if we brought in the Xterra. Yes, we did. How does it run? Pretty good, why? It seems the Financing Lady is looking for something like that. I’m pretty sure that my old Xterra won’t even hit the market.

By the end, it was nearing 11 at night, and we still had better than an hour drive home. We were all smiles as we drove it back home.

Ladies and gentlemen, we are now a single car family. And that car is hereby designated the Ward Wagon!

Five Years of Topsy Turvy

Five years ago, I was messaged on eHarmony. The latest date I’d gone on the week before ended with the lady messaging me saying we weren’t compatible. I was seriously thinking about putting a halt on my searching, but I decided I’d give it at least one more try. It wasn’t like I couldn’t go be a hermit if this one went down in flames as well.

Except that didn’t happen. We exchanged messages for more than a month. I think those were important. We really got to know each other before we actually met.

Then our first date. I had fun, but was nervous as hell. Honestly, I couldn’t tell if she thought it went well or not until she texted me the next morning. Then both of us were getting ready for Irma, which was scheduled to hit a few days later. During said preps, I discovered I’d left my debit card at the restaurant. I guess I was having a good time. The night of the hurricane, we were texting back and forth. The. Entire. Night.

More dates, which was difficult because we lived fifty miles away. Which felt longer because the main highway linking us liked to clog up at the most inopportune time. Then trading weekends. Neither of us can agree when we decided that our relationship was heading to marriage. All I know was that by May or June of 2018, I was hunting up wedding rings. She was sending me enough links to ones she liked that my FB feed had ads for rings for six months.

Five years ago, that message has upended my life. In so many good ways. I’d never thought I’d leave northern Hillsborough County. Now, that part of the state I’d spent almost all of my life in seems like a distant place. I’ve felt more at home in Parrish than I remember feeling since I was a child.

It’s been an amazing five years, and I can’t wait for many, many more.